Vital Forces For A Happy Home

Vital Forces For A Happy Home (3)

Dear Reader,

It is a good day for you! Last week, we examined Love & Excitement as vital forces for a happy home. It is important for you to know that God instituted marriage and He intended every home to be a sweet and peaceful place. When it is not so, it is evident that something is missing. Many people dream of a perfect home, a place where joy, peace, prosperity and fruitfulness abound but they are not ready to pay the price. So, their dreams seem far-fetched. I would like you to know that building a sweet home is possible, but it does not happen by chance. The Word of God says: Every house is builded by some man… (Hebrews 3:4). Just as in the natural, you cannot own a house by merely wishing for it; likewise, you cannot have a peaceful and exciting home except you play your part. You must take responsibility for the building of your home.

Today, I want to give you one of the vital ingredients for building a sweet home. That vital force is Gratitude! One of the ways of enjoying a happy home is by showing gratitude. It is the master key to a happy home; yet, the missing ingredient in most Christian homes today. Take time individually and as a couple to express gratitude for the life you share with each other. Throughout the day, acknowledge small, loving gestures. Let your partner know how much you appreciate these kind acts. It is also a good idea to express thanks in a more formal manner. You can choose to do this daily during dinner or before going to bed.

Husbands and wives must learn to be appreciative of little acts of kindness. Parents and children, if you want an outstanding home, learn to be appreciative of one another. As you do that, God will begin to promote your home. Mothers, don’t sit down commanding everybody, “You, go to the kitchen. You run outside” etc., without saying “thank you” when necessary to members of your household. If you have a domestic help, who has done one thing or the other for you, don’t just come back from work and begin to shout, blaming and condemning. Learn to show appreciation. Say, -“thank you” to that little girl. Don’t think, “Who is she? After all, how can I be saying ‘thank you’ to my domestic help? God forbid!” That girl may not be educated today or look like an entity presently, but you may need her help tomorrow. Remember, “Whatsoever thing a man sows that he shall reap…” Also remember that such a girl is representing a particular family. Did you choose the family you belong? No! Neither did she, so it is not her fault that she is a domestic help today. Therefore, treat her well. God keeps the record of what you do to others. So, love your domestic helps; commend them, do not condemn them.

“Thank you” is a very short statement made of two words but with the power to improve any relationship. For instance, during the last Women Convention, one of our sisters testified about how she improved her relationship with her domestic help. She began to treat her like a daughter and one day when her child was afflicted, God used the domestic help to deliver her daughter from that affliction.

What would have cost her a huge sum of money and emotional stress was solved by her help. It pays to be appreciative.

Don’t say, “Look at my friend’s husband, he has done that for her, he has done this etc.” You never show any appreciation for the little things he has done; yet, you only complain, saying, “He has done nothing.” At the end of the day, the man, woman or even the children may become tired. So watch it; do not destroy your sweet home.

Some time ago, a man wrote to me lamenting that his wife was never satisfied with everything he does for her, anything he buys and any amount of money he gives her. She doesn’t say, “thank you” or “I appreciate you.” The man said he was getting tired of her attitude. Wives, your husbands won’t be tired of you in Jesus’ name. However, you must learn to appreciate him. For some husbands too, nothing their wives do pleases them. Ingratitude is a killer of family harmony. Learn to say “thank you” for small and great kindness. If it is little money given to you, appreciate him or her very well and he/she will increase it next time.

As children, don’t say, “Daddy, this is not enough.” Instead, thank him very well, appreciate him deeply and next time, when you need money, he will increase it. My husband says, “Every complaint complicates issues.” Today, I impart unto you the Spirit of gratitude that will enable you praise God, your spouse and family members as the need arises. Receive it to the glory of God.

Don’t ever forget to give God the glory that is due to Him. Constantly acknowledge the hand of God and give Him the glory for the good things in your home. Always remember that you are only able to keep your home by the enabling power of God.

My husband says: Until you learn how to be grateful, you don’t taste greatness,” because the depth of your gratitude determines the depth of God’s commitment to your lifting. Do you want greatness in your family? Then, learn to appreciate God and your family members.

Before you can appreciate God, you must first be born again. If you are not, you need to be born again. Thus, if you are ready to be among the redeemed, say this prayer:

“Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

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